How to ruin Your Wedding

The days before the wedding are wonderful. I have no scientific explanation for this, but our brain must be releasing some strange chemicals that make us feel more loved, relaxed, and as a result - more naïve.

One of the most familiar and harmless symptoms is the feeling that virtually everyone in the world wants to come to our wedding. Even if the last time we saw the person was in kindergarten. But this phenomenon, which we will call "the wedding stupor naivety", has its drawbacks.

In the following lines, we will try to understand the meaning of the "Wedding List" provided by the event venues, see how it can help you (when you know how to use it) and how it can, in certain cases, ruin your wedding.

The list of recommendations was derived from the needs of event venues to work with a regular list of professional service suppliers. It is clear: if you have been to a wedding at a certain venue but the catering was awful, your impression of the venue is ruined. This is true to music, bar, and design services as well. Also, the list of recommendations is supposed to help the couple make their way through the cruel sea of suppliers out there…

All good and well. But where does the problem start? Like anything else, when money is involved.

Naturally, the high-quality service providers have all made their way to the lists, and suppliers of lower quality are not on the lists. Instead of making an effort to improve and better their services, some have offered money to venues in order to be listed.

Financing printing and design costs

Many venues, which are ultimately businesses, were glad to find the new source of income and decided to turn a blind eye to the low level of service, as long as incomes were high. Incidentally, there is nothing wrong with charging a fee for inclusion on the list, in order to finance its printing and design, as long as the initial aspect of quality remains.

Why am I actually telling you this?

Because when a couple suffering from "wedding stupor naivety" encounters a recommendations list which is actually a "payers' list", they cannot always tell. From here, the road to a crappy wedding is short and painful.

In order to avoid this, you must do two simple things:

Make a cross section of several lists: ask each venue for its list, and don't be afraid to ask the salesperson for her/his personal recommendations from the list. Names that repeat themselves, on the larger lists and all the more so on the smaller lists, can be seen as a sure thing.

Ask whether the list is paid for: venues that are confident of the quality of their suppliers should be able to answer securely, even when the list is paid for. Stuttering and an attempt to avoid the question should get your attention. Of course, this is not enough to be sure, but it's a first step to screening out and using the list wisely.

In conclusion, remember that many venues still adhere to quality in their lists.